I’m kinda’ the anti-feminist woman. I typically get annoyed with activist types, and the whole man hating thing. I like that men and women are different. I like that we have different strengths and weaknesses, and I feel like they can compliment each other.
That being said, I have to comment…
I have been reading and hearing much lately about many people in positions of power being abusive to their wives or girlfriends. It is a huge problem. not just for celebrities and politicians, but everywhere.
I have to say, this is a subject that is all too familiar to me.
I was previously in a very unhealthy marriage/relationship. I recognize and sympathize with the women in the articles I have read. Many said the exact same things I remember going through. “Walking on eggshells” around the significant other, not knowing when they would switch and become verbally abusive or physically abusive and threatening almost out of nowhere.
I can not say that I did not have a role in that toxic relationship, but I remember feeling like I was dying, and losing more and more of myself, and my soul, everyday.
People for various reasons decide to stay in these unhealthy and terrible situations, and many do not survive. I stayed much longer than any sane person would have. But then again, I have never pretended to be fully sane.
I made it through the other side, out of crushing darkness and over the past years, have started finding myself once again. (Not dead, just misplaced); I know that I’m truly stronger because of it.
I’m not a man hater.
I do have anger and some insecurities that are probably leftover, maybe even a few bouts of PTSD type behaviors. It’s something I have to try and work through everyday, but I have to try and use it for positive.
Hopefully, I can use it to teach my son how to be a strong man who is comfortable being a man and being himself, while also knowing how to be kind to others (i.e. the women in his life).
Thank you for reading!